Let’s face it the last election was very stress provoking for many people and as a therapist I meet a variety of people from all walks of life with differing backgrounds and belief systems. Differences can also show up in family dynamics where family members don’t always agree on certain topics, and this can be particularly stressful during the holiday season with family get togethers. 

Political differences can lead to misunderstandings and conflicts that strain relationships. When discussions turn into arguments, it can feel as if the very foundation of a relationship is being tested. This is especially true in families where shared values have traditionally been a source of unity. The emotional toll of political stress can lead to resentment and alienation if not addressed properly. Some things to consider as we are gearing up for our holiday season.

Recognize the emotional toll. It’s important to recognize how political discussions affect your emotions and those of others. Feelings of frustration, anger, or sadness may arise when discussing contentious issues. Acknowledging these feelings is the first step toward managing them effectively.

How do we navigate a situation where family members who have differing political views and bring them to the table over the holidays? 

Have a game plan

Start by having a realistic outlook and be prepared if topics become too stressful or heated.  

Communicate

Talk with your family members in a way that shows respect and understanding even if you don’t agree with their viewpoints. Acknowledging someone else’s viewpoint doesn’t mean you have to accept it; instead, it shows honor for their right to think differently.

Establish boundaries

Setting boundaries is a valuable skill when dealing with family members especially with differing viewpoints.

Before diving into politically charged conversations, set clear boundaries regarding what topics are off-limits or how discussions will be conducted. For example:

• Agree to avoid personal attacks.
• Decide on time limits for discussions.

By setting these boundaries, you create an environment that encourages open dialogue while minimizing conflict.

Practice active listening

Active listening is crucial skill when discussing sensitive topics like politics. It involves fully concentrating on what the other person is saying rather than formulating your response while they speak. This practice develops empathy and understanding. It also clarifies the other’s point of view. 

Find common ground

While it may seem challenging to find common ground amidst political differences, focusing on shared values can help strengthen relationships.

Take time to identify values that you share with your family members or friends. Discussing these shared values can shift the focus from divisive issues to collaboration.

Don’t forget humor!  

Humor can be an effective tool for diffusing tension during politically charged conversations. A light-hearted joke about might ease some stress and remind everyone involved that they are still connected beyond their differing opinions.

If discussing politics becomes too intense or stressful, try steering the conversation toward lighter topics or past joyful memories.

Practice gratitude

Allow yourself to appreciate the gift of family and friends. Share your appreciation for the connection of loved ones. Use the time as an opportunity for growth and understanding.